An illustrated blog about psychology and relationships.07.24.2017
How to argue constructively
Arguments can have a very positive effect on a relationship, provided that they are conscious and are about communicating with your partner.
It’s worth bearing in mind the following points during conflicts in a relationship more ›
One of the most common reasons why couples seek help for their relationship is a crisis caused by infidelity. This is an extremely difficult moment in many ways: the level of trust is low, and the level of emotion can be overwhelming. more ›
Satisfying roles in a relationship
An interview with Joanna Dulińska, psychologist, psychotherapist and supervisor at the Process Oriented Psychology Institute (Instytut Psychologii Procesu).
A conversation about what roles are needed in a relationship, how to make changes in a relationship, why people cheat on each other, and many, many other important issues. more ›
Leaving your options open?
Leaving the “door open” or “not burning your bridges” creates a sense of being able to choose.
But all the options stay as potential choices that are not made. more ›
Sex – under the surface
Our sex lives are a reflection of cultural and societal images, of the “chemistry” and feelings which bring (or don’t bring) a couple together, of our ways of communicating, and individual desires and prejudices. They confront outer patterns with our innermost ones, those governed by primitive and often entirely unconscious forces. more ›
Breaking up? Not yet…
“After the first phase of being in love, after the feeling that everything is going to be wonderful, it becomes clear, that that’s not what’s going to happen. From this point on, people start to look at each other differently. And this is a fantastic moment! As long as we don’t stay stuck in this place.”
Grażyna Lubińska talks to psychotherapist Mikołaj Czyż about how to fight for a relationship in trouble. Published in Wysokie Obcasy Extra, issue № 9 (30), November 2014.
Before addiction takes hold…
Addictions have a huge effect on relationships. They often appear after two people have made a commitment to each other. more ›
Couples who are smitten with each other, again
Do you remember the special time when you first got together? What was it that captivated you? What were you like?
A few years later it’s sometimes hard to remember that you’re still the same people… more ›
Beware! This is not a question!
If you want your loved one to give you a compliment, then it’s best to ask for it directly :)
The control trap
If you want your partner to be “stronger” or “more decisive”, then think about what these words mean to him. When you try to give him instructions, the best you can hope for is an docile student… and that’s not what you’re after!