Beliefs that block the development of a relationship

Each couple has their own private set of beliefs, which hold problems in place and make changes for the better much more difficult.

The most common ones include:

1. “If I have to ask for something, then – if I get it – it will mean much less to me than if I had received it without asking.”
2. “If it wasn’t for him/her, our life would be much more interesting.”
3. “If we were really close to each other, we wouldn’t have to talk about things like this.”
4. “I can’t be fulfilled in life because of him/her.”
5. “Since I am making sacrifices, he/she should, too.”

What beliefs/traps do you know from your own experience or from observing others?